We avoided some of these questions at first, but Liana is quite curious about everything from how babies are born, why our chickens don't have chicks and how the rooster fertilizes the egg, and how someone's body get so sick that it dies.
Today she was playing with her doll and accidentally popped it's head off. Then she pretended to cremate it and wanted a container for the ashes.
Then she asked me, "Did Lev's head come off when he died?"
When I said no, "His body looked fine. He just got sick on the inside," she then asked:"Did his leg even come off?"
"No, Liana, his body was together."
Yesterday when we were talking about diarrhea she asked me if Lev had diarrhea when he got sick.
He did pee himself, but I decided not to share that at this point.
Only share what she asks about, that was the advice a counselor gave me, but if she asks, be honest and clear. She said Liana would grow up with a different sense of family and life and death, but that it would be normal for her. It would just be a part of her story about herself and her family.
I think the counselor was right, but it is hard sometimes.
Liana wants to be a doctor or a ballet teacher when she grows up. I wonder how much her situation will influence her development.
Rebecca
